Survivor Chat Cafe > I REALLY DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO?
i really dont know what to do, I have been married for 8 years and with my husband for 10 years until 8 months ago, over the total of the 8 years he has been verbally abusive and very controlling, he threatened everything to me including killing me. Yes at times i have been reall scared until recently 8 mths ago my 7 year old son saw us get into a fight and he slammed a knife down on the counter, that scared my son, and he went to school the next day and reported it. Anyway to cut the story short because there is so much of it i had an injunction against him now that is over we are still separated and going thru therapy, but i dont know if i want him back in my life, he keeps calling me saying he has changed but every now and again i see the old him, I feel guilty that he is not at home but i dont want this anymore, can he change??? Or should i just move on, i know if i file for divorce it will be another fight, just want input thanks for listening>>
March 19, 2009 |
LYNNE
LYNNE
Hi Lynne,
I was also in a marriage that was very abusive physically, mentally, emotionally and financially. It got to a point where I felt so low I had no option but to get back up. I feared not only for my life but wondered how I would survive with a young baby in a state where I had no family. That man tried to kill me, But GOD stepped in! If I were you, the first thing I would do is pray and ask GOD for guidance, he will give it to you. I will also pray for you. The feelings of guilt etc are perfectly normal for you, but let God guide you, only he knows what is best. You have to get away not only for you, but also for your children. I believe a man can change, but not that easily. Put you first and the children and do whatever it takes to regain your peace, which may include filing for divorce. I have been free now for 4 years and believe me when I say the grass is greener on the other side. I have spent the last 4 years getting to know me, loving me and my daughter, and while I am still single, this has been the happiest moment in my life. You too can have peace, but it will take a fight, move on and be strong. You deserve the best.
Sisterly Love. Be blessed.
I was also in a marriage that was very abusive physically, mentally, emotionally and financially. It got to a point where I felt so low I had no option but to get back up. I feared not only for my life but wondered how I would survive with a young baby in a state where I had no family. That man tried to kill me, But GOD stepped in! If I were you, the first thing I would do is pray and ask GOD for guidance, he will give it to you. I will also pray for you. The feelings of guilt etc are perfectly normal for you, but let God guide you, only he knows what is best. You have to get away not only for you, but also for your children. I believe a man can change, but not that easily. Put you first and the children and do whatever it takes to regain your peace, which may include filing for divorce. I have been free now for 4 years and believe me when I say the grass is greener on the other side. I have spent the last 4 years getting to know me, loving me and my daughter, and while I am still single, this has been the happiest moment in my life. You too can have peace, but it will take a fight, move on and be strong. You deserve the best.
Sisterly Love. Be blessed.
March 19, 2009 |
georgia
georgia