Survivor Chat Cafe > It's been great for 8 years and he's not the person he used to be...
I have known this man since I was 9 years old as he was a friend of my uncle's growing up. Him and I have been together for 7 1/2 years now and he's raised my 7 and 9 year olds like they were his own. I am a full time student and only work part time from home, so financially this has caused a lot of pressure on him. He has been working 90 hours per week (6am to 10pm) daily for months now. He's extremely verbally abusive to me and my kids. He acts like he hates us--is this resentment for working so hard? I take 5 classes and am in school all day while the kids are in school. I pick them up then run to either boy scouts, girl scouts, baseball or gymnastics ( this is after we do their homework), then do dinner, showers and bedtime for kids so that I can work from 8:30 to midnight. Then I do my homework. I don't just sit and do nothing all day, but he insists that he works harder. Will he be happy when I graduate? He seems to be intimidated by it a little. It's coming up next Spring. Working too hard doesn't explain why he broke my nose 3 years ago though and choked me so hard that I had to eat soup for 3 days. I tell myself he'll be the person he used to be, but I have scars to prove otherwise. To leave him right now would mean that I would have to quit school since he provides a home and a car to drive while I am in school. My money goes towards the kids needs--he pays bills. I've come to rely on him entirely too much, but am so close to graduating and regaining my independence that I put up with it. I give such good advice to others, I just wish I'd heed my own once in a while. The funny thing is you ask? My field is Social Work! I know better. Thanks for listening.
February 4, 2009 |
Denise
Denise
Hello,
My name is Shern. I'm a student in a university in Washington, DC. I'm creating a documentary on female women survivors that have been raped by men. I wanted to know if any of your female survivors would be willing to talk to me on video about their rape experience and how they overcame it. I was once a rape victim and now is a survivor and needed some positive reinforcements from other females that have been through it. My approach is that a survivor can help a rape victim become a survivor. I am creating this documentary to help other rape victims and survivors. I can provide you a proposal and a list of questions I am going to ask. If you have any questions, please email me. Thank you for your time and consideration.
Thank you,
aim4positive.videos@gmail.com
My name is Shern. I'm a student in a university in Washington, DC. I'm creating a documentary on female women survivors that have been raped by men. I wanted to know if any of your female survivors would be willing to talk to me on video about their rape experience and how they overcame it. I was once a rape victim and now is a survivor and needed some positive reinforcements from other females that have been through it. My approach is that a survivor can help a rape victim become a survivor. I am creating this documentary to help other rape victims and survivors. I can provide you a proposal and a list of questions I am going to ask. If you have any questions, please email me. Thank you for your time and consideration.
Thank you,
aim4positive.videos@gmail.com
February 7, 2009 |
S
S
Hi Deneise,
If you stay in this relationship you may not make it to graduation. Take heed to your sixth sense. It may be that he is intimidated by your potential success, and if that is the case, it will only get worse the closer you get to graduation. Suggest counseling to him, and try talking to him. But in the mean time, you need to get on up out of there. No matter what the situation is, no deserves to be abused. Talk to GOD and trust me he will help you. I wish you all the best.
Be Blessed.
If you stay in this relationship you may not make it to graduation. Take heed to your sixth sense. It may be that he is intimidated by your potential success, and if that is the case, it will only get worse the closer you get to graduation. Suggest counseling to him, and try talking to him. But in the mean time, you need to get on up out of there. No matter what the situation is, no deserves to be abused. Talk to GOD and trust me he will help you. I wish you all the best.
Be Blessed.
March 19, 2009 |
georgia
georgia