Color Me Butterfly

Even if the laws were stiff or-as they are now not stiff enough-doesn't really make a difference. I say this because a woman that is being battered by a man usually takes it from him for a time. They are confused, afraid, ashamed, and sometimes these emotions take over and the woman may became stuck in the rut. Now I know first hand that i can have him arrested, jailed, and charged. But did I go through with this? NO. There was noone there to tell me they will help me.. Noone there to say enough is enough. I turned to the police when I was 5 months pregnant and had got punched in the face and the cop told me that she was too busy right now and that I should go home and call 911 and make a report out. That blew my mind because just as I was trying to get help, there was the guy driving away. I pointed to his car and stil lshe said that there was nothing that she could do. So I stayed around this behavior feeling that this was it for me. THis was what I was going to live with for the rest of my life. Until one day I had enough. I got an order of protection and stopped that behavior from him. I moved. I changed my phone number. I stayed inside for a good 3-4 months so that hopefully, we wouldnt run into each other anywhere. 9 years later, I am glad that I made that decision for myself. I did have the law on my side. I knew that I always did. I just never knew when the right time to do this was and was I ready for the consequences. After getting beaten for 2 years, I figured the worst he could do was kill me. All i wanted was to be free. The law did good but he never got into trouble for what he did. The prosecutor said that I couldnt press charges because there wasnt enough evidence of him battering me. It would be my word against his. WHether I like that or not, it couldnt go to court. I still did what i was advised to do and glad I finally got the courage to make change for myself and receive any help that i was being offered by anyone who cared.