Color Me Butterfly

I don't think that our laws are strong enough because so many men still think that they can abuse their women and get away with it. I belive that Congress or whomever is over the laws should toughen them and enforce them more. The bible says that women should submitt to their husbands and it also says that husbands should love their wives. Where is the love? I don't understand relationships today because this world don't make any sense. We have so many women loosing their lives because the laws are not enforced well enough. I feel that the Law makers need to do something about that.

I agree with you totally, our laws are not strong enough. I have a friend that lives in a small community where it seems as though all the law enforcement knows her abuser. Therefore, when they are called out, nothing ever comes of the situation. Sure, they sent him to anger management classes...that he never took...on two different occasions...for two different women. Nothing was said of his failure to take the classes and he is still out there carrying on like everything is everything. I believe more should be done also to show these men that thy can't keep carrying on this way without reprimand. The situation i so bad that instead of supporting her,his family acts as though she should deal with it behind closed doors. Why do you have to get the law involved, is what they always seem to be more worried about asking.WOW!!!

I agree that the law are not tough enough on these abusers.I've gone through the abuse and when I found out that the police would ta

The laws are indeed not stiff enough on the abuser. I've been there and when I did call for assistance from the police, after they took their time getting there, the person was already gone or either they would just ask that we stay apart. I know what I did was not right but I started to take things into my own hands. I became the abuser.To let men know how it feels to have someone put their hands on you at any given time and for any reason. I have calmed down from this. But sometime we have to take control if the law doesn't before it's to late.

I agree that our laws are not strong enough. The law should be able to move much faster when their is spouse abuse, immediate actions on the abuser is critical. A stitch in time may actually save her/his life.

I believe that when a person goes to her/his physican and he suspects abuse the doctor should have the immediate priviledge of involving law enfourcement. He should be able to writh a prescription for anger management counseling or recommend to a judge some jail thime so that would take the pressure off the victim. Doctors should be allowed to let families know if abuse is going on in the home he has a legal right to involve the authoraties

I do not believe the laws are nearly as harsh as they should be, neither are the elected officials designated to make sure of it. Society is still treating domestic violence as a "crime of passion" as if the wife/companion is supposed to learn how to live with an obviously emotionally unstabled husband/man who sees her as a punching bag and not a human being. How many women and children have to die before these judges, lawmakers, and law enforcers see that this crime is not "passionate" and should involve prison time for the offenders ??? What is so very sad and disheartening, but true, is the amount of women who falsely charge men of this horrific act and overflood the dockets with unnecessary and dishonest crap and prevent REAL victims from getting the help they seek and truly deserve. True victims are paying with the price with their health, life, and sanity because of this and if these women were hit with perjury charges, I am sure the number of these cases would greatly iliminate judges and lawmakers looking at every domestic violence situation as the same. The madness has got to stop!!

I was just denied a new protective order on Friday and the abuser entered the house and took my son's keys. He had cordial, small talk with me and asked me if I wanted him to stay. I said "no" and he left and has not called or come by. My daughter asked my sister if she could come live with her and my son has just been so angry since the incident. What am I to do just because his name is on the house? The law doesn't make any common or logical sense. He hasn't threatened me according the judge and the current law. What about the probability of what could and/or may happen? What about the emotional abuse being placed upon the children? I don't want to be fatal statistic. Where is my help when I'm clearing asking for it?

Protective Orders are worthless pieces of paper because they are hard to enforce,however I would still recommend that they be filed, just be mindful that if the person has not actually demonstrated any sign of aggression it will be hard to have one filed. Develop some type of watch schedule with family and friends. Change the locks, try having his name removed off the lease/mortgage. If it is a mortgage payment you may have to sell the home. But by all means necessary never be alone.